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You have failed to state a coherent point about corporal punishment or those who support it. To whatever extent you have convinced yourself into thinking that you've done otherwise, your imagination is where that delusion begins and ends.
But yes, I assume you're probably still spanked by your parents. I assume you're Korean. I've had enough Korean friends to know they were spanked by their parents, how often, for how long, with what and why.
Some of them still kept getting spanked into college, for bringing home poor grades. But you're almost certainly no older than 14-15, which tells me you are almost certainly still being spanked by your parents, which is almost certainly why you wrote this thread.
Your use of language suggests you lack the maturity to take responsibility for your own actions, which is probably a significant contributing factor to why you're still spanked. For example, you externalize blame to "those people" who support or at least do not oppose corporal punishment. You call them "psychopaths," but say no more.
So, I get both your age and your educational level (as well as the fact that you're still a student) from both how you are making the point you're making and how you're psychologically reacting to those who disagree with you. To illustrate, you have an unsophisticated yet concrete understanding of psychopathy. You understand that it's a term with significant connotative gravity which involves some level of moral failing/deficit, connected with a predisposition towards malice.
Here, that you chose a term involving predisposition towards malice and level of some moral failing/deficit is what matters for our purposes. You believe that the one who is culpable, which is to say, the one doing wrong is the one who is engaged in the act of punishing another; and this is a perspective held only by one who is still punished in that way, or at least who has been punished in that way recently.
And that's what's weird about our conversation. On the one hand, you're externalizing guilt and culpability in a manner that would be expected from a younger child, older than a toddler but younger than a teenager. But on the other hand, you're communicating in a way suggests you're at least in the 8th to 10th grade. So, psychologically you've not matured at the same rate that you've physically grown and you'd be generally behind the curve, relative to a typical adolescent.
I did not say "peers" because your peers may be about as psychologically mature as you are, as a result of the harm due to COVID-19 lockdowns. Basically, the idea is that you missed out on about 3 years of "growing up" because of "public health" measures during the pandemic. But so did all of your peers, so the baseline I'm comparing you against isn't necessarily reflective of where your actual "peers" would be. Absent the pandemic, you'd probably be in about the 25th percentile of psychological maturity. With it, I have no idea . . . but potentially up to the 50th percentile. Which is to say, your behaviour here could be normal of your specific generation.
But it also doesn't change the fact that you're still school aged. I assume, however, that the extent of your psychological maturity is probably a contributing factor to why you're still spanked, given that you're Korean. Especially if you have an older sibling, and I'd bet you do, against whom you are compared by your parents, which is why they think you still probably require corporal punishment --- whether or not your older sibling was still spanked at that age.
I also didn't humiliate you. Nor was humiliating you my intention. But the fact that you felt humiliated is reflected by what you said in response to me. And the fact that you felt humiliated is an additional data point that is consistent with my assessment of your age/demographic assessment.
Now, here me when I say this: There is absolutely no reason to feel humiliated because your parents spank you. Or impose limits on your behaviour. Or correct you when you do something improper. Within the bounds of reason, of course. The purpose of correcting children is instruction, not to inflict pain for the sake of inflicting pain. There are parents who can be like that, but it is highly atypical of what I would expect from Asian parents, in general, and Korean parents, in particular.
Children are a point of pride in Korean families. Your parents view your behaviour as a reflection of their own worth, as people. So, when you fuck up by being a little shit, it is their honor and your family's honor that they believe is on the line. That is because if you are fucking up, as you might do by being a bratty little shit, it means they have failed to properly instruct you how to behave. Which means they have failed as parents. Your failure, however big or small, is their failure as parents. And they do not want you to fail, because they do not want to dishonor themselves or your family.
Now here's a little secret, as well. If your parents didn't give a shit about you, or actively wanted to bring harm to you, they would allow your misbehaviour to go uncorrected. That is what happens when white parents let their "little angels" have "whatever they want," because they "deserve it." There was a crackpot child psychologist in the 1970s and 80s who taught this "self esteem" model of child rearing. It's the reason why Millenials are so fucked up, psychologically. They got participation trophies for showing up and their parents (for the most part) reinforced their antisocial behaviour by failing to correct it, often to the point of feeding narcissism and engendering a sense of actually pathological entitlement. That's why they're the "pull ups and participation trophy" generation. I could talk about parenting norms of other groups, but I think this is enough for you to get the point. Some Indian (from India) parents made that same mistake.
Tangentially, I guarantee you that at least 4/5 people here were spanked by their parents. Including the people who deny it.
The next time your parents spank you, after its over ask yourself why you were spanked. Ask yourself "What have I done that brought about this result?" and "How could I have acted differently, that might have prevented me from being spanked?" And the lesson you should be taking from that self reflection is not to become better at avoiding getting caught. It is to recognize the behaviour that caused them to spank you, and stop doing it.
But as long as you're pouting about how mean your parents are for spanking you, you're still going to get spanked. It's just that simple. Sadly, you don't seem to have figured that out yet.
Again. I really did not intend to humiliate you. Nor do I think I actually humiliated you. Nor would I ever intend to humiliate someone who I am pretty sure is only a kid. That's not how I roll. But in my opinion, you have done a fair job of that yourself.
If you want to discuss this privately, I will unblock you so you can DM me. But if you're going to continue to be an obnoxious little brat, I have no interest. You are your parents' responsibility. Not mine.
