I think you have things in reverse here. You are the one who has to explain why the bible as translated into english paints such a negative picture of the Yahweh's character. I'm just not especially interested in your explanation. No more than any other attempt at victim blaming or excusing of an abuser.
But that is the thing. I don't think it paints God's character in a negative manner. I think it paints humanity in a bad light. And God in a wonderful light who has gone beyond what any human would do for someone who has treated him so badly.
Hence, why I don't agree that I have things in reverse. You and others constantly say - look how bad this situation is. I say - sorry it makes sense to me that God would do that. It is lawful and just or gracious and merciful. Yet you or others continue to miss these things concentrating on what you perceive to be the negatives.
I think part of the reason is because you start with the idea that God is a nasty piece of work and thereby this colors everything you see in the bible. On the other hand I start with the fact that God is good and just and this colors everything in the bible for me. I do find it amazing that despite all of the nasty things you see God doing - you always omit to commend the good things that he does do. Surely there is a reason for that if it is not a bias you have. I have a reason for the nasty things you think God does - I call it justice - lawful acts of a God who acts justly.
On the other hand, you see nasty things and think cruel and vindictive. Yet - then you never consider God in his gracious light and in the lovely and kind and merciful things he does. You just conveniently omit these things - pretend they don't exist. Yet to do so I think is intellectually dishonest. But the thing is - if you do start to consider these things -then you will have to start asking yourself other questions - and that I think is part of the reason you don't want to address it.
So for the record - I don't feel any need to justify or rationalise the bible. I really don't. Yet I think you do. And you do it constantly because when people like me say God is good and holy and just and merciful it gets up your nose. And when we point out the selfless acts he does - such as sending Jesus - (himself ) to die for people who hate him - rather than see the good - you just think nasty thoughts.
Hence why I say I dont have to rationalise things. The onus is on you - not me. You need to be able to articulate why God does anything nice to anybody. And since the bible is full of such examples, that is a lot of rationalising if you really do think he is a mean and vindictive God.