You say why label, well we have labels called heterosexual and homosexual don't we?
Yes, we also have labels called asshole and bigoty.
They exist because we judge what something is and not.
I don't think that all assholes are bigots, but I do think that all bigots are assholes.
Now if you're scared to call a cis male gay for doing whatever sexually with a trans female, that cis male wants to know,
Nonsense, that cis male doesn.t give a crap what I or an asshole bigot thinks of him.
it's disingenuous to avoid answering the question.
That's right, and the question I asked was "are you gay being a cis male that seems obsessively interested in Transexuals, what exactly are you "coming out as"?", and it is very understandable why you are afraid to answer the question.
You clearly have feelings that draw you to transexuals, and that scares you, you want to know what cis males think of other cis males who are drawn to transexuals, you are clearly afraid of the feeling you have. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to tell you what to do, you need to decide for yourself if you are coming out as gay.
When you finally do, I'm sure you will find it liberating.