Normies: I'm not racist; I have a black friend.
Me: I'm not racist; I think every confederate flag should get lit on fire and replaced with the 2nd amendment flag!
Normies: I'm not anti sematic; some of my best friends are Jewish.
Me: I'm not anti sematic, I think literally every Jewish person living in Israel should move to the US to escape bombings from Hamas!
Normies: I'm not homophobic; I got a gay friend!
Me: I'm not homophobic; I literally think a company should not be allowed to fire you for being LGBT (or unvaccinated).
Normies: I'm not transphobic; I'm not afraid of transgenders.
Me: I might be transphobic depending on your definition of transphobia. If it's believing that you can't just identify as a woman and become a woman, then I'm transphobic in that regard. But I also think it's possible to be a woman with a dick. So if your definition of transphobic is believing that only men have dicks, then I wouldn't be transphobic.
The normie is afraid of unpopular labels; I care more about truth than agreeableness.